A Beginners Guide To Bondage

A Step by Step Guide To Bondage

If you’ve been looking to take your lovemaking to the next level, bondage may be the kink you need. The BDSM lifestyle has gained popularity in recent years with the 50 Shades Of Grey franchise and the many other authors who have touched on the fetish. It doesn’t matter if you’re submissive, dominant, or both. Anyone can enjoy bondage and the many joys it can bring to a relationship or a night of fun for consenting adults.

What Is Bondage?

So, what is bondage? Bondage is the act of tying up and restraining your partner. It’s an intense sexual fetish under the BDSM umbrella that many have grown to love. When you think of bondage, you might imagine handcuffing your partner to the bed or making him or her put their hands behind their back as you tie a rope around their wrists. There are many ways to experience bondage and make it fit for you and your partner. If you’re a beginner wanting to try bondage for the first time, then try these tips to make sure you have a seamless experience.

Communication is Key

First, it’s essential to communicate with your partner or whoever you choose to try bondage with your desires. You don’t necessarily need someone who has more experience than you to teach you a few things, but it can help the experience be even sweeter. If you can’t find someone who has some years behind their belt with bondage, then it’s best to put yourself completely out there and indulge in the fetish. You probably already have the basics lying around your house. Some ropes and a pair of simple handcuffs are perfect for starting your journey.

Determine Your Roles

Supplies should be the second to last thing you think of in this scenario. You want to focus on the connection and trust with the person you are deciding to have any bondage play with first. While determining who will be the dominant player and who will be the submissive player is essential, it is not crucial.  It’s wonderful to desire to be both and see how things are different when playing each role. Being shy is natural when it’s your first rodeo, but it’s best to put yourself completely out there to shake off any nerves you’re experiencing. If you really can’t jump into things, have your partner of choice put a blindfold on you. It adds a bit of mystery and can shake any nerves you’re experiencing. You may even want to consider adding some roleplay into your bondage if you’re a beginner. It sometimes helps to pretend to be someone else to get you really in the mood.

Choose a safe word

When trying bondage for the first time, you need to make sure you are comfortable with what you will do. You need to find out your limits and make sure you tell your partner when you have had enough. Many couples share a safe word, so if things get a bit too much, you can say your chosen word so your partner knows to stop.

Which Bondage Sex Toys Do I Need?

Once you have an open-minded partner to step into the bondage world with, all you need now are the necessary tools. As previously mentioned, handcuffs and blindfolds are the standard choices to start with. You don’t want cuffs that are too complicated to get off in case you misplace the key. A simple pair from our sex shop will do the trick and won’t break your pockets. Blindfolds can be anything such as a handkerchief or a piece of cloth from an old bedsheet. You can also purchase an elaborate blindfold that you can use for years to come once you find that bondage is something you enjoy.

Invest in a Bondage Kit

Bondage Kits are perfect for bondage beginners as they contain everything you will need to ease you into bondage fun. They don’t cost the earth, and you will get a variety of toys to experiment with. These kits usually include the necessary items like blindfolds and cuffs, which are great introductory sex toys. They sometimes include kinkier toys that you may think you’ll never use, but you may surprise yourself in 12 months.

It doesn’t take years of research to begin your journey into bondage. Having an open mind, a willing partner, and a few items to start with is all it takes. Taking things slow while making sure that no boundaries are crossed make you or your partner uncomfortable. Whether you’re dominant or submissive, bondage can turn into something you’ll enjoy for a lifetime.

Hopefully, our Guide To Bondage will help you enter the satisfying and thrilling world of Bondage.

Want to find out more? Then take a look at our Guide to humiliation play or Rough sex vs slow sex.