Kinky and Living With Disabilities

When people usually think of BDSM, they often think about the erotic books you find on amazon or the Fifty Shades of Grey franchise which hit our society extremely hard. We see a mighty man mould a shy and awkward young woman into his ideal submissive in that movie. The thing about movies and novels is that they sometimes rarely show how they really are in real life. Instead, they show the wonderful side of things, putting people in a fairytale mindset only snapping them back into reality when the book or movie is over.
In real life, we understand that not everyone is Christian Grey. Many people in the BDSM community are, in fact, kinky and living with disabilities. The great thing about this way of life is that there really is something for everyone to enjoy. Unfortunately, many never discuss people with disabilities in the BDSM community and how programs can be put together to help them enjoy their kinks.

If you search on Google or your favourite search engine to learn more about being kinky and living with disabilities, you may come up a bit short. This is simply because many choose to ignore it. What you may find is that some people living with disabilities and practising BDSM are actually more vulnerable. Some people seek what they believe are weaker individuals to break them down and abuse them both mentally and physically. This is not BDSM. Yes, this fetish includes giving pain for pleasure. However, it does not include purposely beating a person down to harm their mental or physical state.

Being Kinky and Living With Disabilities

Now there is an upside to things.
The great part about BDSM becoming more popular is that more issues in the community are being addressed, specifically dealing with those who have disabilities. Creativity plays a big part in this lifestyle. We all possess a special talent and often have a creative side that we’ve yet to tap into. Just because someone who is disabled can’t do one thing doesn’t mean they aren’t stronger in another area. There are many different types of disabilities from Physical, Sensory and intellectual impairments, which all qualify as disabilities. There are many people out there who are kinky and living with disabilities. Some attend BDSM conferences and take on power roles as doms and mistresses. The great thing about these conferences and workshops is that it brings people together who might not meet otherwise. Having an open positive platform to speak on issues such as these is important.

One of the major problems a disabled person faces is when playing with a non-disabled person. Often the non-disabled person worries they may hurt or break the disabled person as they think they may not know their own limits. This can be very disempowering to be told someone knows your body and limits better than you do.

Basically, being disabled does not mean you can’t have a varied and fulfilling sex life. If you’re a disabled person, you will need to communicate with your partner or the group you’re having sex with. It’s up to the person if they let their partner’s know they have a disability (if it’s not visible). But by letting them know would surely let the disabled person relax more. All participants will be aware of the disability and be more careful if there are any physical problems. You can still have the boundaries pushed, but only as far as you want.

Many people indulging in BDSM have a safe word, so if things get a bit too much and you want to stop, you can say the word, and your encounter will come to an end. With some imagination, most disabled kinky people can get up to all sorts of mischief. As long as it’s fun and everyone’s consenting, all that’s left is to enjoy your surroundings, soak up the atmosphere and let the pain and pleasures begin.

Are you kinky and living with disabilities? Let us know your thoughts below on the BDSM community and how they play an active part in helping everyone feel as they belong.